I can't say that I have ever really believed in karma. I know I have hoped for it on many occasions, but rarely have I actually been fortunate enough to witness it. This past week though, karma reared its ugly head on me, and bit me on the ass for something I did over 10 years ago. It all started when we moved to a new development out in the country, east of Tacoma shortly after our daughter had turned one years old. Before long, I met a neighbor who had twin girls the same age as my daughter. She informed me that she organized playgroups in her home with other families she had met. We soon became regular fixtures at her playgroups.
Every new mother is prone to those self doubts about whether you are doing this whole parenting thing right. You worry about your child meeting those all important milestones on time. You can't help but look at other people's kids to gauge whether or not your kid is at the same level. You wonder if you should be doing something differently to nurture your baby's development.
My own daughter had unfortunately inherited a mild form of brittle bones disease from me, and therefore she had more than her fair share of leg fractures and casts until she mastered walking. She was delayed in her gross motor skills as a result, but received weekly physical therapy to help her. So of course, I had my worries about her and my own self doubts about my abilities as a mother. Linda was no different from me in that respect, however, unlike me, Linda would actually make comparisons of the kids out loud. I don't think for a minute that she meant it in a mean way. I think she was just taking comfort in her observation that her twins had surpassed my child (and others) when it came to some developments. When her children became old enough to make such observations themselves, they did so, not only to my daughter, but to me. Needless to say, Linda and her brood got under my skin quite a bit, but because we were neighbors and because our kids attended the same preschool, I just silently endured her and her offspring.
Linda had a strong personality, and when we mothers sat around talking about our challenges, she was the first to interrupt with her far superior way of doing things, or much worse, would dismiss the issue and shut down the speaker by proclaiming that she NEVER had such problems with HER girls.
On one occasion, she was telling us how she bought her girls two new pairs of shoes each from Payless, and she encouraged the other mothers to check out the sale. I mentioned, not meaning it in a haughty way, but I suppose in retrospect that was the way she perceived it, that I usually bought my children shoes when Nordstrom has its sale. I went on to say that I liked the way the sales people took the time to measure the kids, and that I preferred to buy Striderite because I knew it was a good shoe with plenty of support. She blanched, then sulked, and said nothing more about it until the next time we met. The first thing out of her mouth after the pleasantries were out of the way was that she had talked to her pediatrician, and he confirmed that it was a waste of money to buy expensive shoes for kids and that the Payless ones were just as good. She went on to ask if I had heard of their SmartFit shoes for kids and how they have excellent support. To this day, I can't believe that she actually felt the need to discuss my shoe store and brand preference with her pediatrician.
I became the editor of the monthly newsletter for our co-op preschool when Linda was the classroom representative for our children's class. Usually when people submitted articles, I would edit them and fix any errors that I noticed before entering them. However, when Linda wrote a long article in regard to the upcoming bike day, and repeatedly spelled the word "helmet" as "helmut", I left it. I left in all her errors. I just clicked and pasted her entire submission right into the template for the newsletter. I felt a little guilty about it, but not much. Yes, it was passive aggressive, but it made me feel ever so slightly better for once one upping the one upper.
Flash forward to present day, and karma has come to haunt me for my folly. I had submitted some information for a very informal publication with a limited distribution. This apparently was not a click and paste job, because I am sure I included commas. I am also sure I wrote the correct name of a school I attended. A song I paraphrased was botched to the point that it was unrecognizable and it sounded like I was a giddy 10 year old girl in writing it. If I send in a correction, to at very least correct the name of the school, I am pretty sure I would sound petty, and like I was taking such a small thing way too seriously when it was meant just for fun. So I suppose I will just live with the embarrassment that the people who read it, which would unfortunately be people I see on a daily basis, will think I am a sort of a dolt. Dang you Karma! I believe in you now!
